Monday, February 8, 2010

Being the other Woman.

Ladies come one come all, married woman's point of view on "The Other Woman".

All right, ladies, we all know that it's in a woman's human nature to want a man in her life, to be in union with, comfort her and to validate her worthiness. My question to you: Ladies how far are you willing to go to achieve affection from a married man? Women have a tendency to except men and all of their flaws because of our desperation of wanting to be loved.

I'm sure that you have heard of the old saying "any man is better than no man". Well, I am a married woman who have experienced women and their desperate measures of trying to seduce and lure a married man away from his wife and children. If you're saying, what, she actually airing her dirty laundry? Yes, ladies, my panties are blowing in the wind.

Let me say this to all the other women who decide to be in a relationship with a married man. The same emotion that you have of wanting to be loved and adored, is the exact same emotion that us, as married women have. Think about it, we finally found the man of our dreams that we want to spend the rest of our life with him; then there's a woman who comes into his life and want that same union. Yes, two have to tangle in order for it to be a relationship but, what action are you going to take to persuade him to leave his wife?

There are certain men who love to soar and conquer as much as they can in their life time and for them to have a variety of women to choose from makes them happy. It is up to us as women to set boundaries and to be in charge of our lives. For myself, I have notice that there are three types of cheating married men:

Type 1: Description of a cheating married man.
1. Don't tell you that he's married and you eventually find out.

A: I know this is a devastating moment for you. You think that you've finally found your "Night and Shining Amour", only to realize that he has giving marriage vows to another woman. Ladies, this is the time to do some soul searching on how you're going to handle this situation? Will you leave and tell him that you don't appreciate being lied too, or will you be content with what he has to offer you? Speaking from a wife's point of view, leave, because we don't want the stress of competition with the other woman.

Type 2: Description of a cheating married man.
2. Tell you that he's married but, he's going to leave his wife.

B: Now, if this happens for you congratulation! But, if six months has past and he hasn't left yet, 9 times out of 10, he's lying
to you. With that being said, will you live in your fantasies and believe that he love and value you more than his wife? Ladies, without a doubt, if this is the allusion you want to wrap your heart around, get ready for a lot of emotional ups and downs.


Type 3: Description of a cheating married man
3. Let you know that he's married however, he's not going to leave his wife and he ask you to except it.

C: Okay, ladies, is this what you really want or does your heart's desirer fight against this thought 100 percent. If this is the case, walk away and save yourself the struggle, heartache and disappointment. Reason being said, you can't force a man into leaving his wife if that's not in his heart's desirer. No matter how many back flips you turn to gain his love and attention; it's simply not going to happen for you! From my personal observation, the other woman is setting herself up for an unfilled, unhappy and unsuccessful love journey, with a very bitter ending. My word of advice to you is; when you realize that you have put your all into him and he still doesn't look to you as the one he want to spend the rest of his life with, move on, don't go after his wife. For instance;

(Caution: 1) Please, don't give him pictures to take home, so that his wife can become aware your existence.

(Caution: 2) Please, don't contact his wife to let her know about your connection with her husband.

(Caution: 3) Please, don't tell his wife that her husband prefers your "loving" over hers. By doing so, this will be a tremendous lack of respect to his wife emotional well being.

Woman to woman, have a heart where the wife is concerned. Whether he tells you he's married or you find out the hard way, remember, the wife didn't make any commitment to you, he did. This relationship, whether good or bad, should be discussed and kept between the two of you. In other words, if you're going to agree to a relationship with a married man, find out what works for you. Create an environment that you and him can share, instead of being in constant competition with the wife.

Ladies, if you can't fathom the thought of sharing a married man; by all means leave and never look back. Message: We can't make someone love us, we can only enforce the love for ourselves.

All in all, getting involved with a married man is your decision but, be prepared for the consequence of sharing "Love".